Well its too long a story to go into right now or in one update, but I have some siblings floating around this country or for that matter maybe around the world that I don’t know…
My father to be matter of fact, could ‘keep it in his pants’. He died when I was 7, I don’t really remember him therefore don’t really have any attachement to him.
As far as I’m aware he was married long before meeting my mother and had a daughter I’ll call Do. They divorced and he met my mother. They were together for some time, like 12 years off and on. My mum doesn’t talk about it much but I saw pictures of him with my mum at her 21st, and he died when my mum was 33 so that how I work that out.
I’ve been told by others that my mother fell pg unexpectedly and he offered to marry her. Being the stubborn, cut off your nose to spite your face kind of person she still is she refused. Admirably if not stupidly she didn’t want people to think she had gotten pg on purpose… ???
Then as you do, he supposedly got the shites with that and found comfort in the arms of another woman. When my mother still refused to marry him he said he’d marry the other woman, which it seems he did…
I discovered by chance some years ago that he had 4 or 5 children with this other woman, but still continued to see my mother. I don’t judge my mother at all for her choices, I think that she was brave to go it alone in the early 70’s when single mothers were probably expected to give there children up for adoption, which apparently my grandmother had wanted.
Anyway I’ve always toyed with the idea of trying to find some of these siblings. I was mucking around with facebook last night when I thought I search my fathers very unusual surname (lucky for me). I found someone who it 3 years younger than I am and sent him a message asking if he was related to —— ‘gave him my fathers details’.
He has responded this morning with YES, he is my father!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Holy heck!!!!!!!!!!!!! In this day of technology is it truly that easy to locate someone?
I’ve sent some more information to see what he has to say. I’m not rushing into anything, he could be an axe murderer for all I know. But I’m definately interested to learn more so will keep you posted…